Looking after yourself
When supporting someone else, it is also important that you look after yourself. Looking after your wellbeing is good for you and the person you care for.
Supporting someone else is sometimes called caring
You are a carer if you provide (paid or unpaid) support and care for someone who has a mental health problem. Supporting others can be mentally and physically tiring and you may feel that you have no time for yourself. But looking after your own mental health and wellbeing is important for you and them.
Some challenges you might face when supporting someone else include:
- stress and worry;
- anxiety;
- low mood or depression;
- isolation and loneliness;
- frustration, resentment, anger and guilt;
- money worries;
- less or no time for yourself.
For many people supporting someone is also a positive and rewarding experience.
Self-care suggestions
These are some suggestions that can help you to look after yourself while supporting someone else. Even choosing one small thing to do or change, may make you feel better.
Talk about how you feel
It's really important to talk to someone about how you feel, especially if you are struggling to cope. You could:
- Speak to someone you trust, such as a family member or friend and share your feelings.
- Join a support group for carers. There are some specifically for people who care for someone with a mental health problem.
- If you are struggling with your own mental health, speak to your GP.
Take 5 steps to wellbeing
Try to build the Take 5 steps to wellbeing into your daily life. The 5 steps are:
- Connect
- Be active
- Take notice
- Keep learning
- Give
Make small changes to your lifestyle
Making changes to your lifestyle can have a big impact on how you feel physically and emotionally. Think about:
- eating a balanced diet and staying hydrated;
- being more active, by walking to the shops or doing a workout at home;
- spending time outdoors, meeting people and noticing what is around you;
- reducing your screen time;
- practising relaxation techniques;
- improving your sleep hygiene.